People piss me off...

garage*girl · 12-01-2005, 07:04 AM

I was sitting in the doctor’s office just being obviously pregnant and while I was curled up trying to sleep I over heard a conversation between the other patients about single parents and divorce.
First they started talking about how couples who get divorced only hurt their children, it's only the children who get hurt and suffer and have the long term effects from losing a parent in the household. I sat there wondering which would be worse for the child living with one happy parent or spending all their time in a house with two miserable parents, but it was none of my concern I wasn't going to get in to with them.
But then they started talking about how girls that go out and get "knocked up" (their term not mine) and have no intentions of staying with the guy shouldn't be allowed to keep their child because there is no way a young single mother is capable of caring for a child. It pissed me off because 1.) There sits a young female who it is without a doubt about to pop and it was made a known fact earlier in the waiting room, and 2.) Because maybe a young female would have more of a chance raising a child on her own if the father wasn't such an ass and went out of his way to make her life a living hell instead of trying to help.
I took it personally I guess because that is all I have heard since getting pregnant, I hear that nonstop as well as how I am not going to be a good mother and how I ruined the fathers life and all that bull shit. I mean come on the last time I checked masturbating didn't get my pregnant, if his life is ruined I find that to be his own damn problem because my life if well far from ruined. I don't feel that anyone has the right to tell me I am not going to be a good parent until I give them reason to do so which I haven't, I am still holding two jobs and being a full time student, I am still supporting myself and I have left the father alone after he made it perfectly clear he wants nothing to do with me or the baby.
I was actually told the other day that everything he has said and done I brought on myself because I didn't pursue him further and I just let him go and say anything he wants about me, I can't make them understand that I am not going to fight him .. What would be the point in that?

People just piss me off.

TheLoneOne · 12-01-2005, 07:11 AM

I'm sorry that they upset you like that

I've seen quite a few single mothers be good parents to their children, regardless if they have a father with them. Of course, I've seen the other end of the spectrum as well. I'm sure you'll be a good mom to your child... but don't take what they say to heart, because you know you'll do your best to raise your baby right and that's all that matters. Let time tell the tale and show them how wrong they are in their statement.

Sarah99202 · 12-02-2005, 11:49 PM

It's easy to turn a deaf ear to people's hurtful comments if they don't apply to you... Before I got pregnant with my son, I must have heard that same thing a thousand times, and it never registered until I had a reason to take it personally. People just like to spew bullshit... I'm sure it wasn't directed at you. Single moms raise smart, successful kids all the time. Don't sweat it-- you'll do great.

Geronimo · 12-03-2005, 12:09 AM

I would have said ... atleast we don't do like they did in the old days when a 17 yr. old single girl was concidered a Spinster. Ha! Thats me though.

Johnboat · 12-03-2005, 05:25 PM

These people should try meeting some single mothers. I know several single mothers and of the ones I know AND know the fathers; they are ALL better off the way they are > separated. A happy-poor home is better than an unhappy-well off home for a child.

My parents came close to divorce a few times during High School and it thrilled me! I would have much rather dealt with living with one happy parent than two constantly pissed off ones. (Fortunately my Dad realized he needed to change and my parents are still together.)

If the parents can work their shit out than ya they should stay together. If not it's just gonna cause more harm psychologically to everyone involved.

On the other hand if you don’t have the ability to support a child you have no business planning to have a child. (Yes, I know that nature has other plans sometimes.)

Gilgar · 12-05-2005, 10:51 AM

I can't say that single moms raise successful kids but we are smart as hell. Then again My dad did have a hand in raising me just not much of one. (thanx for killing the success part pops, lol). But in all seriousness some of the best most well adjusted people come from single parent homes (be it mom or dad with whom they live). As far as people pissing you off, that's why man invented fire, human flesh is horrible cold.

**Exitilus** · 12-05-2005, 03:27 PM

Yup .. People are closed minded and stupid. I sometimes want to destroy the world ... but then the people I like change my mind

Johnboat · 12-05-2005, 03:46 PM

Ya, it's a good thing we're here for YOUR amusement.

**Exitilus** · 12-05-2005, 03:47 PM

Don't make me touch your feet ...

Johnboat · 12-05-2005, 03:50 PM

Back I say, back...

12-01-2005, 07:04 AM	#1 (permalink)
garage*girl Eternally Lost Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Virginia Age: 23 Posts: 569 My Mood:	People piss me off... I was sitting in the doctor’s office just being obviously pregnant and while I was curled up trying to sleep I over heard a conversation between the other patients about single parents and divorce. First they started talking about how couples who get divorced only hurt their children, it's only the children who get hurt and suffer and have the long term effects from losing a parent in the household. I sat there wondering which would be worse for the child living with one happy parent or spending all their time in a house with two miserable parents, but it was none of my concern I wasn't going to get in to with them. But then they started talking about how girls that go out and get "knocked up" (their term not mine) and have no intentions of staying with the guy shouldn't be allowed to keep their child because there is no way a young single mother is capable of caring for a child. It pissed me off because 1.) There sits a young female who it is without a doubt about to pop and it was made a known fact earlier in the waiting room, and 2.) Because maybe a young female would have more of a chance raising a child on her own if the father wasn't such an ass and went out of his way to make her life a living hell instead of trying to help. I took it personally I guess because that is all I have heard since getting pregnant, I hear that nonstop as well as how I am not going to be a good mother and how I ruined the fathers life and all that bull shit. I mean come on the last time I checked masturbating didn't get my pregnant, if his life is ruined I find that to be his own damn problem because my life if well far from ruined. I don't feel that anyone has the right to tell me I am not going to be a good parent until I give them reason to do so which I haven't, I am still holding two jobs and being a full time student, I am still supporting myself and I have left the father alone after he made it perfectly clear he wants nothing to do with me or the baby. I was actually told the other day that everything he has said and done I brought on myself because I didn't pursue him further and I just let him go and say anything he wants about me, I can't make them understand that I am not going to fight him .. What would be the point in that? People just piss me off. __________________

12-01-2005, 07:11 AM	#2 (permalink)
TheLoneOne Krazed Addicted Master Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Private Age: 30 Posts: 2,796 My Mood:	I'm sorry that they upset you like that I've seen quite a few single mothers be good parents to their children, regardless if they have a father with them. Of course, I've seen the other end of the spectrum as well. I'm sure you'll be a good mom to your child... but don't take what they say to heart, because you know you'll do your best to raise your baby right and that's all that matters. Let time tell the tale and show them how wrong they are in their statement. __________________ Is this the part when I'm supposed to give a shit? Sorry... must've missed it.

12-03-2005, 05:25 PM	#5 (permalink)
Johnboat Mondu's Sperm Bank Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Washington Age: 28 Posts: 3,345 My Mood:	These people should try meeting some single mothers. I know several single mothers and of the ones I know AND know the fathers; they are ALL better off the way they are > separated. A happy-poor home is better than an unhappy-well off home for a child. My parents came close to divorce a few times during High School and it thrilled me! I would have much rather dealt with living with one happy parent than two constantly pissed off ones. (Fortunately my Dad realized he needed to change and my parents are still together.) If the parents can work their shit out than ya they should stay together. If not it's just gonna cause more harm psychologically to everyone involved. On the other hand if you don’t have the ability to support a child you have no business planning to have a child. (Yes, I know that nature has other plans sometimes.) __________________ My cult like following is now taking applications.

12-05-2005, 10:51 AM	#6 (permalink)
Gilgar Brandon 1st Blood, Part 2 Join Date: May 2005 Location: Missouri Age: 21 Posts: 2,499 My Mood:	I can't say that single moms raise successful kids but we are smart as hell. Then again My dad did have a hand in raising me just not much of one. (thanx for killing the success part pops, lol). But in all seriousness some of the best most well adjusted people come from single parent homes (be it mom or dad with whom they live). As far as people pissing you off, that's why man invented fire, human flesh is horrible cold. __________________ A dragon you say? I poke him in the eye with my stick of pokeing +2 Note: No trees were killed in the sending of this message, but a large number of electrons were terribly inconvenienced.

12-05-2005, 03:27 PM	#7 (permalink)
Exitilus Sock Violater Site Owner Join Date: May 2004 Location: Washington Age: 28 Posts: 5,454 My Mood:	Yup .. People are closed minded and stupid. I sometimes want to destroy the world ... but then the people I like change my mind __________________ Beware the otter, for it is wise and terrible in the same way that bricks really hurt when they are thrown at you. Albert Einstein: Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I'm not sure about the universe.

12-02-2005, 11:49 PM	#3 (permalink)
Sarah99202 Redheaded Mistress of Doom Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Washington Age: 24 Posts: 159 My Mood:	It's easy to turn a deaf ear to people's hurtful comments if they don't apply to you... Before I got pregnant with my son, I must have heard that same thing a thousand times, and it never registered until I had a reason to take it personally. People just like to spew bullshit... I'm sure it wasn't directed at you. Single moms raise smart, successful kids all the time. Don't sweat it-- you'll do great.

12-03-2005, 12:09 AM	#4 (permalink)
Geronimo Krazed Addicted Master Join Date: May 2005 Location: Private Age: 34 Posts: 1,572 My Mood:	I would have said ... atleast we don't do like they did in the old days when a 17 yr. old single girl was concidered a Spinster. Ha! Thats me though.

12-05-2005, 03:46 PM	#8 (permalink)
Johnboat Mondu's Sperm Bank Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Washington Age: 28 Posts: 3,345 My Mood:	Ya, it's a good thing we're here for YOUR amusement. __________________ My cult like following is now taking applications.

12-05-2005, 03:47 PM	#9 (permalink)
Exitilus Sock Violater Site Owner Join Date: May 2004 Location: Washington Age: 28 Posts: 5,454 My Mood:	Don't make me touch your feet ... __________________ Beware the otter, for it is wise and terrible in the same way that bricks really hurt when they are thrown at you. Albert Einstein: Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I'm not sure about the universe.

12-05-2005, 03:50 PM	#10 (permalink)
Johnboat Mondu's Sperm Bank Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Washington Age: 28 Posts: 3,345 My Mood:	Back I say, back... __________________ My cult like following is now taking applications.

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