is castration of an unwilling male legal

[Indemnis]

I'm sick and tired of the fuck up I married. As many of you well know from previous venting he is a lazy bum. All day he does nothing but video games and tv... then he goes onto MY computer and goes and visits iffy sites that I end up searching for viruses hidden on my hard drive latter. He takes no responsibility for his actions or any form of responsibility at all. He was supposed to get up with our son in order to get him on the bus for school. He said he likes doing this and that it's not a problem. Does he do it?

Last night he went to bed around 1:30 am knowing that the bus would be here around 7:45 am. I told him the alarm clock was not set right and that he had to fix it(this alarm clock hates me.... I bump it when I'm walking and it goes off...... I refused to mess with it) Instead of fixing it he just goes back to sleep. I finish the movie I was watching and look at the time. It was a bit after 4am. I hadn't heard him fix the clock so I looks and yep still blinking. So I woke him up... A 15minute process of standing over him shaking him as he pushes me away that ends up hurting my back every time... and tell him that he needs to fix the clock. Mind you it's 4am and I am tired myself. He goes and does something with it and says there it's done. When I look at it what I see from the distance is 1 something. I stop him from laying down and tell him "I think you got the wrong time on there" He just pushes my hand aside and lays down saying it's the right time. Well Gabe our son gets up around the time of 3 by the clock (6 something by my guess) and starts squealing and torturing one of the dogs. My son is Autistic and if you don't keep an eye on him around animals he can hurt them. It's not that he wants to hurt them but he just doesn't understand no matter how many times you explain it. I wake up the idiot because he has been asleep longer so I figured well he wanted to get him ready for school so he better start getting him dressed and fed. I wake up in 15 minutes to the sound of my son screaming at the top of his lungs... the cat shrieking... and my dear soon to be dead husband snoring away. This has been on going for months. He will sleep for 12 hours. Do nothing to get himself moving and motivated for anything then bitch about being tired.

I'm tired of cleaning up after him, cooking constantly for him, his eating enough for 2 to 3 people in a meal and then bitching about there not being enough, multiple excuses he gives me for not bathing regularly, not helping with Gabe, complaining about his dog not being as well trained as mine but refusing to move a muscle to actual train his dog, talking down about himself in obvious attempts to gain sympathy that he does not have coming, rubbing it in my face when he does manage to move his lard and clean an animal cage, him bitching about my family, refusing to pay attention to anything I say no matter what I do to try to get him to focus, his repeated attempts to get me in the sack even though there is no way that I can talk myself into finding a larg unwashed body who has grown to the point that even when he lays on his back you can't even see willy in the folds, Nagging on me to roll cigarettes for him every 15 to 30 minutes, and his talking down about himself daily.

This is going to sound pathetic but there are only three reasons I haven't filed a formal divorce. 1 I can't afford the rent on the place on my own. 2 I'm a horrible agoraphobic and need someone around who can take care of spiders for me. 3 I have problems living by myself.

So far my dating experience seance getting to the point that I don't care what no fucking paper says we ain't a couple has included one guy who took a machete after another person just for talking to me.... another who did nothing all day but complain about how horrible his life is and how he wishes he was dead, and the final one (now this is rich) tried to convince me he was a god and that his worshipers would tend to any and I mean any need I might have while he was away tending to the deaths of the world...... Might see the last one for a fling... sometimes the nuts can be fun to hang around but you gotta be careful that they don't start seeing you as theirs.

I have not truly slept now in a week and even right now only that I am awake and paying attention is he keeping an eye on Gabe. He thinks that intimidating him is the only way to communicate with him. I might be taking up an offer from one of my friends to move into her place after the party on the weekend... I just don't know how much more of this I can truly handle.

[cybastov]

I would definitely move in with someone else as soon as you can, he sounds like he will never change, and I doubt even shoving a rocket up his arse will get him motivated. The reason he is so knackered all the time, is that he does nothing, he eats so much out of probably boredom, and his obvious lack of understanding of the internet, is an obvious lack of desire to know, and just look at crap, until he learns not to be so selfish, he will not change, and I am doubting just telling him to change will make this happen.

[CuteKitten2C]

Soundslike you need to get out no matter how hard it will be for your son's sake if nothign else. That isn't a healthy or safe environment for him to be in. Or you for that matter.

[Indemnis]

I know but just heard from the people whom I was going to be moving in with that they might be moving soon out of city. So I'm stuck. Gotta get up off my own ass and get my comedy script flushed out and hit some of the local bars with it. That way at least I'll have the cash flow to keep the place on my own. Just tell my uncle whats going on... he'll get him outa here. One way or another.

[Delphi_Jade]

You could still live with me hun, it may be a way for me to stay in Duluth for a little longer. Even if we do move in January, you still would have time to find some other place, to work things out with Dave (if that is even possible right now...eh...probably not), or to get an agreement between you and my current landlords to stay in our apartment. The only foreseeable problem that I would find would be that my landlords distrust tenants having cats (they had a bad experience with a few of them... one ended them up with a dead cat in the appartment and another in a dumpster when the guy went nuts). If Noko is a service animal, they can't say much and if you explain to them that Rasputin and Noko are very well trained, they shouldn't have a problem (especially if I vouch for the tippy-pats). Also, you and Gabe would have to share a room, but if thats cool with you then its cool with the both of us. Me and Jerry would both be glad to help you in any way we can if it can help relieve some of the stress in your life. Maybe we should try it for a period of time beforehand, with you (and probably Gabe) staying over. That way you could get the hang of the way our life is, and we could get the hang of your way of life before any final decision is made. Let me know what you think.

[Indemnis]

we can try it out for a week then and see how everything goes. It will have to be after Noko has the kittens. Don't want to move her right now. She should be having them soon. Also Dave wants me to go with him to his shrink and give it a chance. All I can say is it will take allot from him to get me to stay.